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A few weeks ago we shared a post on how to be the best best man ever.
So we figured, seeing as we’ve been talking all things bachelorette parties and Bridesmaids over the last few weeks, it was the perfect time to reflect on what makes a magnificent maid of honour too.
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Being asked to be a Bridesmaid is a big deal, your friend is giving you the honour of being part of her inner circle on her wedding day.
And with great privilege, comes great responsibility.
No your bride can’t expect you to be at the end of the phone for a 3am floral brainstorming session, splash out $400 for your own dress (that you’ll never wear again), or ask you to cut your hair/tan your skin/lose or gain weight for her wedding day.
But, if you’ve said yes to the job, she should be able to rely on you to lend a hand, show some interest, and throw her one heck of a bachelorette party!
Still not sure what’s expected of you as a Bridesmaid? We’ve come up with 10 commandments for being your buddy’s best lady in the lead up to her wedding.
1. BE INTERESTED
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Your friend is no doubt excited about her big day, and chances are she wants to talk about her plans. But with all the chatter of so-called “bridezillas” over the last few years, (we hate that word!) brides have been getting a bad rep. They often feel talking about their wedding could be selfish or boring, so will refrain from waxing lyrical about dress styles and catering options.
Encourage your friend to talk about her wedding, ask questions, and be interested. She’ll feel so much better about explaining her inner conflict over stationery fonts.
2. BUT TALK ABOUT OTHER THINGS TOO
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Just as it’s helpful to ask your friend about her wedding, it’s also important to ask about her work/family/new shoes, and to chat about what’s going on with you too.
She could be getting hit with lots of wedding questions, and feel like her whole life is revolving around this one day. So from time to time, make sure you talk about anything other than her wedding plans.
3. THE PERFECT SHOPPING BUDDY
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Your role as a Wedding Dress shopping confidant is a tricky one, you need to strike a balance between being constructive, but not putting your best friend off the dress of her dreams.
Take a look at her dress board on Pinterest, or ask her about what she has in mind before you go shopping, so you don’t blurt something out, like “Ugh, beading” or “Strapless dresses are so boring” when that’s the style your friend’s heart is set on.
That said, do suggest alternative styles she may not have considered, which you think would look great on her, and if she tries on a dress you don’t like, unless you think she’s in love with it, gently tell her that another one was more flattering/gorgeous/suited to her.
But at the end of the day, remember, it’s about about her style and taste, not yours.
4. FALL INTO LINE (A LITTLE)
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A few weeks ago we talked about the mix and match Bridesmaid trend, and how we love when brides embrace their girls’ individuality. Brides should really take your style into consideration, but sometimes they’ll be set on a certain (pink chiffon) aesthetic for their day.
But even if you get to choose your dress from her palette, maybe you don’t like wear lilac, blush OR taupe (black is more your style), or perhaps you don’t like to wear dresses at all.
While your bride can’t ask you to wear heels you can’t walk in, or dye your signature pink hair brown, when it comes to the dress, it’s just for one day, so it’s often better not to stress your pal out about it.
As long as she doesn’t make you wear something three sizes too small, do your Bridesmaidly duty and suck it up, put it on, and smile!
5. SPOIL HER
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Make your friend feel special in the lead up to her wedding, especially around her engagement and in the final weeks of planning. Make every get together an excuse for bubbly, send her excited texts in the lead up to her day, or take her out for a stress free day of shopping.
From getting a facial together to hosting a BBQ for her and her partner, weddings aren’t just one day, it’s a whole exciting time, so show your bride you’re happy for her and want to celebrate every step of the way.
6. THROW HER HEN PARTY, NOT YOURS
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So your idea of a perfect bachelorette party is downing shots, and hitting the dancefloor draped in flashing L plates, awaiting the arrival of your (fake fireman) stripper.
Perhaps the bride in your life wants something a little more low key.
A weekend on a farm, a spa break, or a karaoke slumber party, think about the elements that would make your friend’s perfect day, night, or weekend, and incorporate them into a personalised hen party she’ll never forget.
7. MAKE YOURSELF USEFUL
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The most helpful thing you can do for your friend is to get jobs ticked off her list, rather than give her one more task, of finding something to delegate to you.
Don’t just tell your bride to let you know if she needs anything, offer your services for specific tasks or take something off her hands entirely.
Tell her you can address and post the invites, assure her you’ll steam her dress on the morning of her wedding, collect the boutonnières from the florist or look after making up the activity packs for the kids. It’s practical help like that, that’s invaluable in the lead up to the wedding.
8. GO TEAM
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This kind of goes without saying, but try to get on with the other Bridesmaids. You might not know them very well, you might not be very close, and you might even find yourselves competing over “best Bridesmaid” bragging rights.
But the last thing your friend needs on the morning of your wedding is to break up your squabbling over who gets to button up her dress for the photographs!
Stay in touch throughout the planning, (set up a group email or message thread), work together on the bridal shower or hen party, and try to be nice to each other, even when it would feel better not to be.
9. THE LITTLE EXTRAS
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It’s the little touches that takes a great Bridesmaid to the next level of awesomeness. And those touches don’t have to cost a thing.
Make your friend a playlist for the morning of her wedding (or steal ours!), create a book for her with words of wisdom, recipes and stories from the women in her life, go with her to a perfumery and concoct a signature scent for her wedding day, or make a survival kit with everything you could need for a wedding day mishap.
Your attention to detail will put your friend at ease – how could she be nervous on her wedding day when she knows you’ve got every eventuality, covered?
10. TO THE BITTER END
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You might normally be the first one to duck off on a night out, but when you’re a Bridesmaid, you’re on the clock as long as your bride is still up and at ’em.
Hit the dancefloor if it empties out after a not-so-great song, make sure your mate eats something and has plenty of water, and try not to drink too much yourself. Of course you should relax and enjoy the party, but just remember, your friend might need a hand unhitching those 47 buttons down the back of her dress at the end of the night.
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If you follow those steps, you’ll be sure to excel at your new job as best Bridesmaid ever!
But of course, that’s not all you can do to be a great Bridesmaid, so please do share your advice in the comments below.
It’s just not a wedding without Bridesmaids. Whether you have one or 10, they’re the ladies who are going to make sure you have an awesome bridal shower and a bachelorette party you, inadvertently, may not remember.
The bride/Bridesmaid relationship is a tricky one, though. You already have a solid relationship with these women, yet you are asking a lot of their time and resources in order to be in your wedding.
We found and answered 10 of the biggest questions about Bridesmaids. How many do you need? Who should even be one? Can you ask them to go tanning before the wedding? Everything you need to know is below.
1. Q. Who should I ask to be in my wedding?
Your wedding party should be made up of people who play an important role in your life: your sister, your old college roommate, etc. The party can be as big or as small as you like, just know you don’t have to ask your entire sorority pledge class, no matter what you promised 10 years ago.
2. Q. When should I ask people to be in my wedding?
You’ll first need to figure out the size of your event. If you’re having a small wedding, a large wedding party may seem off-balance. Once you have a date set, start asking people so they can block out the date.
3. Q. I don’t really get along with my future sister-in-law. Do I have to ask her to be a Bridesmaid?
Depends on the wedding you’re having. While it’s good form to include her, etiquette dictates that you’re not obligated. If you’re having a small wedding party — just a maid of honor and a best man, then you don’t have to. Most people don’t mind not being in the wedding party. It’s one less thing they have to worry about. There will be plenty of other family photos that they will be in. You’re the bride and can design the wedding party however you like — with or without unlikable in-laws.
4. Q. I have two best friends – how do I choose my maid of honor?
You don’t have to! If you have two close friends — or even two sisters — they can both me maids/matrons of honor. This may even be an advantage since it’s helpful to have an extra person when planning bachelorette parties, organizing the shower, etc.
5. Q. My Bridesmaids are annoying me – can I demote them?!
Given that they are your Bridesmaids, you had a strong relationship with them before you got engaged and hopefully will have one afterwards. That said, think about specifically what it is about the Bridesmaids that is driving you crazy. Are they not buying the dress you asked them to? Are they slow to plan a shower? (Maybe it’s a surprise!) When you feel annoyed, single out what behavior is annoying you and then you can work on fixing that problem.
If you have frustrations, be sure to address them in person. Problem solving needs to happen over a conversation, not a barrage of e-mails and text messages.
Make sure you are not the problem. Are you making unrealistic demands, such as making everyone wear the same, expensive shoe or getting their hair done at a pricey salon? Check out our piece about how to get your bridesmaid not to hate you. Sometimes little things, like overtly asking them not to get you a wedding gift or easing up on the hair requirement, goes a long way.
6. Q. What can I ask my Bridesmaids to do?
Don’t they know they have to fan you while feeding you grapes? In all seriousness, there’s lots that they can help you do that is completely reasonable:
Pre-wedding tasks: Things like stuffing envelopes, welcome bags, putting together favors, folding programs, etc. Ply them with some booze and it becomes a bonding experience.
Pay for the Bridesmaid ensemble: This includes the dress, its alterations and accessories. Sometimes brides like to make a gift of the jewelry, which is a nice gesture. Be upfront if Bridesmaids will have to pay for their own hair appointments on the wedding day. If you can afford to pick up the tab, by all means do so.
Help plan or co-host the bridal shower and/or bachelorette party: This doesn’t necessarily mean they have to pay for theses events — sometimes the Mother of the Bride or another relative likes to pick up the tab for the shower — but they should offer to help in some way. Bachelorette parties are usually paid for by everyone who attends — both Bridesmaids and other non-wedding party attendants.
Attend the rehearsal dinner and rehearsal ceremony: They should also attend at least one shower, unless they live far away.
Be social, act as a defacto hostess: If you know a shy cousin will be coming, ask a Bridesmaid to chat him up and make him feel comfortable. Naturally they should all be polite to the other guests, be feel free to point out guests who may be coming alone, etc.
Run last-minute errands: Someone may have to go on a last minute run to Walgreen’s, and the bride is not that person. You can ask Bridesmaids to do last minute chores, or even to greet vendors the day of if you don’t have a wedding planner.
Hold your dress while you pee: Someone has to. Ask the Bridesmaid with the biggest sense of humor.
7. Q. My husband has more groomsmen than I have Bridesmaids, what should I do?
The wedding party should be made up of your nearest and dearest — even if that is an uneven number. Don’t worry if there are more on one side than the other. It’s much better than asking a random person to be in it to even out the numbers. You can sort out how to get everyone up and down the aisle at the rehearsal.
8. Q. I think one of Bridesmaids may not be able to afford the dress, etc.
No matter how well you think you know someone, never assume you know anything about their finances, no matter their lifestyle. Just because your grad student friends lives on Ramen noodles it doesn’t mean she can’t afford to be in your wedding. Maybe she just really likes Ramen?
Once you have your bridal party set, send an e-mail outlining the projected costs. ($200 for the dress, $50 for hair the day of, etc.) People appreciate understanding costs ahead of time. If they don’t think they can afford it, they will let you know. Encourage Bridesmaids to share hotel rooms, etc. Be sure to add a note that if anyone needs help to let you know. The cost of a quietly paying for a Bridesmaid dress for your grad student friend is tiny compared to everything else you’re paying for in the wedding.
9. Q. One of my friends has put on some weight. Can I ask her to lose it before the wedding?
Short answer? No. You can’t ask people to adopt different grooming or lifestyle habits such as losing weight, tanning or changing their hair for your wedding day. When you’re asking someone to be in your wedding party, you’re asking them the way they are. If your friend has let themselves go a little, perhaps being in someone’s wedding is exactly the motivation she needs to get back to her healthy, svelte self.
10. Q. I was in a friend’s wedding four years ago. We are not close anymore. Does she have to be in mine?
There is no quid pro quo when it comes to weddings. You don’t even have to invite someone to your wedding just because you went to theirs. Your friend is probably aware that you aren’t close anymore, either. Since she played an important part in your life before, be sure to invite her as a guest.
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When it comes to wedding planning, there’s enough work to go around — and both your mother and mother-in-law to-be will want to pitch in. So here’s how the most important women in your life should divvy up their wedding duties.
The mother of the groom should…
— Offer your beau financial assistance — if desired — for those things traditionally paid for by the groom’s family, such as your bouquet and the rehearsal dinner. (But don’t be offended if she doesn’t — many couples are now paying for their weddings solo.)
— Attend the bridal shower with a gift and a smile.
— Check in with your mom about her wedding-day attire — their looks should complement and not compete with one another — and shop for her outfit up to six weeks before the big day.
— Plan and host the rehearsal dinner, which could take up to six months to organize.
— And dance with her son at the reception, of course!
See More: 7 Things Every Mother-of-the-Bride Should Do
The Mother of the Bride should…
— Discuss your wedding budget with you, and the ways she and your father would like to contribute.
— Be the back-up contact for wedding professionals, including your planner, caterer and florist.
— Help you choose your wedding gown — tears aren’t required, but definitely appreciated!
— Ask your opinion on what she should wear for the big day, and purchase her attire up to six weeks before the wedding.
— Attend or even organize your bridal shower, depending on what you decide with your ‘maids.
— And be there for any pre-wedding breakdowns, crisis and moments of pure joy!
Both mothers should…
— Help spread the word on where you’re registered to their family and friends.
— Seek out recommendations for wedding professionals and ceremony and reception sites — as long as you’ve asked for their input.
— And see you off from the reception as the two of you embark on your new life together!
What do you wish your mother and future mother-in-law would do for your big day?
If you didn’t get the memo about the sky-high cost of weddings, you’re not alone, by any means. When exactly were you (or your loved ones) supposed to squirrel away $25K (the national wedding cost average) between high school, college, crappy first jobs, crappy third jobs, etc? More bad news: if you’re in a major city like NYC, that wedding cost average nearly doubles. If you’re working with a budget of significantly less than either of those figures, I do have some good news for you. It doesn’t cost $25K to get married. (There’s a big difference there.)
There’s no need to despair – you can absolutely have a fabulous big day for far less than five figures. So before you start racking up the wedding-related credit card debt, and buying in to every bit of wedding-related hoopla in the known universe, read these 10 things every cash-poor bride should know before you begin your wedding planning journey.
1. The wedding industry doesn’t want you to think you can have a truly awesome wedding for less than 25K. But you absolutely can. It might not have all the bells and whistles of an “as-seen-on-TV” wedding, but it can still be beautiful, memorable, and most importantly, budget-friendly.
2. Some wedding vendors may sneer at your small budget. They’ll insist that you can’t have a “decent” wedding for less than five figures, and they’ll make you feel crappy about your wedding choices. Don’t reward them with your business. (They’re totally wrong, btw. Your wedding is going to be awesome.)
3. Planning a wedding is like taking on an unpaid part-time job, no matter what your budget. You’ll probably put in 20 hours a week on Pinterest alone. However, if you have the time to plan your own wedding, skipping on a wedding planner will save you thousands.
4. Proceed through bridal magazines with caution. The wedding glossies frequently feature wedding items that are way out of your budget. Do your research on designers and brands before you give your heart to a $4000 Wedding Dress. (The same goes for bridal salons – be sure to ask about price points before you shop. For more dress shopping tips, check out our ultimate guide to Wedding Dress shopping!)
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5. Gorgeous examples of budget weddings can be found at any price point. Don’t believe me? Google “$5000 wedding”, or “10K wedding”. You’ll find enough budget-friendly inspiration on the interwebs to fill three weddings. Trust me, it’s out there.
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6. Know that you’re not alone – and finding a supportive, like-minded community of brides will make your wedding planning journey so much easier. There are tons of resources out there for budget-minded brides – blogs like The Broke-Ass Bride, or The Budget Savvy Bride, and SHEfinds, of course!
7. Pick the three things that are most important to you – now you know where you’ll be allocating most of your wedding budget. (Do remember that the food is usually the biggest wedding expense, and if it doesn’t appear on your top 3, you can save a lot by not serving a full sit-down meal.)
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8. Still feeling self-conscious about your small budget wedding’s status? A smaller guest list will allow you to devote more of your budget to food, flowers, and decor – which will make your wedding look much pricier.
9. Don’t be quick to turn down free help when it’s offered. If your Aunt wants to bake your wedding cake as her gift to you, let her do it. Likewise, if your Maid of Honor wants to help you tackle every wedding-related project that comes up, by all means, let her tag along!
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10. If certain wedding traditions don’t speak to you, they’re not worth spending your hard-earned money on. Axe them. It’ll leave more room in your budget for the things that truly matter.
An oversized bouquet has a dramatic look for the flower-loving bride. This is a stunning idea for outdoor and boho weddings with a focus on freshness and color. These bouquets can be your main floral arrangement if you’re having smaller floral pieces in the rest of your decor. We’ve picked out 10 gorgeous oversized wedding bouquets to inspire you.
1. Summer Pinks
Peonies, garden roses, decorative kale and green hydrangea are the perfect ingredients for a fresh and colorful summer bouquet. The large blooms make this DIY bouquet an easy one to construct and has such a lovely result.
This modern mix of flowers and foliage has a distinctive botanical feel. With touches of copper added to the palette, it creates an enviable mid-century look.
3. Peaches and Succulents
Succulents are a bouquet fave for a reason. They effortlessly enhance the other flowers in the bouquet and work well with neutral tones. Make the succulent a centerpiece by choosing one in a significant size.
4. Bold Brights
For double the impact, go for both color and size. Vibrant reds teamed with slightly burnt orange blooms are a great pairing for larger bouquets. Leaving the stems bare, also creates an informal look to balance everything out.
5. Pink Blossoms
A feminine, elegant and ethereal take on an oversized bouquet. As light pink is such a delicate color you can get away with having more blooms.
6. Clean and Simple
If you’re weary about going for such a bold piece, you can keep the bouquet clean with white and cream flowers. This will give you the opportunity to play around with the size of the bouquet without it being too overwhelming.
7. In the Wild
This lush bouquet with hints of lilac and peach has a wildness to it that goes hand in hand with a garden affair.
8. Deep tones
For fall weddings, deep and rich autumnal tones work especially well in larger arrangements. Blending these with trailing greenery finishes the piece.
9. Whimsical Paper
For a touch of whimsical charm, go for oversized single paper flowers. A quirky look that would fit in perfectly in a woodland wedding. Extra bonus points if you fancy a challenge and decide to make them yourself!
10. Cascading Bouquet
A cascading bouquet is a true statement piece, which gives you the opportunity to play around with proportions and the dimension of your bouquet. It is a lovely way to complement the silhouette of your dress.
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May it be a 18 year old teenager or a working mother, showcasing the attitude with the personality is of utmost importance since that outer thing is what everybody is going to see first. Beauty and elegance impresses anybody at a single glance.
Who likes having a same hairstyle for a long time? The basic necessities of women lies in being hot and shocking the world around them with their ever new look. Try these Trendy Medium Hairstyles for Women and watch how your crush feels Goosebumps on his skin after encountering you. Stay stylish! Give yourself the gift of new and refreshing hairstyles this summer to both be comfortable and look great.
Trendy Medium Hairstyles for Women
Short Sexy Pixie
Best for the women of all age groups since it is the style of the decade. It looks cool on professional dress code to outfit for DJ nights. You may put on the colour on your hair as to highlight it and get stylish.
Yes, you got it right! These are asymmetrical bangs which looks classy and gorgeous on a formal outfit, though people wear this hairstyle in parties as well. You, preferably, tilt your hair to either right or left side of your head to avoid encounter with eyes.
- Forget about the attention that people around will die giving you, think of the moment when you will find yourself having the most unique and gorgeous hairstyles with headbands.
- A hot pop star, Lady Gaga has finally got this wonderful hair style as to define a new style by her name.
- You don’t even need to colour your hair as the natural shine looks great.
Side Lower Updo
- Girly hairstyle and a good choice by women since it look great with hot one piece and formals as well.
- Yeah! These are a bit time taking hairstyles but then you need not put an effort throughout the day to maintain the hairstyle since it won’t get ruined easily. You may also check unique braids to try out in 2015.
Indeed, why do boys have all the fun? This hairstyle was ruled by several men out there but now women have snatched the incredible grace and charm on the earth of fashion. Highlighting the tips of hair with bright and funky colors looks damn glamorous since it is a new fashion statement.
If you have a sleek and straight hair, you turn your hair curly or wavy and then go for this gracious haircut style. Tilting hair on either side by layering up hair asymmetrically looks sassy. You may put on head band of colors similar to your dress for an elegant feminine sensation.
You remember Dolly Parton? This well known singer and lyricist is the one who explored this authentic hairstyle, as the name suggests. Messy Doll-Y hairstyle has been one of the most Trendy Medium Hairstyles for Women of all time. Beads may help you enhance your look even more making you look stupendously fantabulous and swag.
Bouffant Medium Hairstyle
- All you need to divide your hair unevenly so as to suit your face cut and facial features. You may go for layering of hair so as to get a U-shaped styling on hair.
- If you face a frequent hair fall or have thin hair, you may love to see your hair getting voluminous by curling up your hair using dryer.
- Both, hair with colors and without colors, look great being the part of newest trend in fashion.
- Casual dress up suits authentically with this superb hairstyle.
Get flirty with all these fantastic hairstyles to make guys turn and stay awestruck by watching your hearty hairstyle. These Trendy Medium Hairstyles for Women will suit every kind of faces and surroundings. Congratulations for now you have a distinct set of awesome haircut styles. Do share your views and queries, if any.
My obsession with turkish designer Tarik Ediz has been well documented on this blog. Between his Tarik Ediz and Tarik Ediz White Collections .. there’s enough style candy for the bride and her Bridesmaids. Tarik dresses have also been a HIT with brides looking for sexier dress changes for their wedding reception. His dresses are feminine, sexy and guaranteed show-stoppers. See and swoon for yourselves.
One would think “all” means–well, all— when buying an all inclusive wedding package. Unfortunately, the definition varies for each venue. If you are not wary, your final cost may vary substantially from what you expected.
To avoid sticker shock be sure to have a detailed conversation about what is (and is not) included in your package price and any additional fees that may apply. Also, read the contract carefully and ask questions about gray areas. Sadly, whoever you are speaking with will not necessarily disclose everything.
Here are some tips for getting the most for your all-inclusive dollars and circumventing surprise charges.
1. If you are having the reception at a hotel, make it clear you will reserve a block of rooms for out of town guests. This puts you in a better position to negotiate extra fees out of your contract and get additional discounts.
2. Ask if tips are included. Bartender, wait person, and other service tips can add substantially to the cost.
3. Confirm your price includes all support staff needed for set-up, serving, and clean-up.
4. If you are putting together welcome bags, discuss if there are any fees associated with holding or delivering them.
5. Talk cake. Whether you bring in your own or use their baker can affect the cost, as will the size and construction, of the cake.
6. There may be an extra cake cutting and/or plating charge.
7. If applicable, see if they will throw in decorations, linens, or other supplies from the hotel for no extra charge. It’s no extra cost to them and saves you money.
8. Be clear on time limits and additional prices if you run over.
9. Understand the parking arrangement. Is valet included or will they add extra? Are there charges for guest parking?
10. Don’t forget about taxes. They add up. Figure it out when discussing costs and explicitly add them as dollar-amount line items to your quotes.