Trubridal Wedding Blog

The wedding bouquet. For the ancient Greeks and Romans, the bouquet was a mixture of garlic, herbs and grains. The garlic was meant to protect from evil spirits, the herbs and the grains were to provide fertility. In ancient Poland, it was believed that if the wedding bouquet was sprinkled with sugar, it will sweeten the wedding day and the couple’s family life.

The wedding cake. The cake has always played the capital role of the wedding celebration. The ancient Romans broke the cake over the bride’s head in order to symbolize fertility and abundance. Some other cultures put wheat, flour or cake on the bride’s head and then ate the rest of it. The British had a tradition to give cookies to all wedding guests. In the Middle Ages, the guests brought little cakes to the wedding celebration and put them on a separated table – the bride and the groom stood on both sides of the table and kissed each other. A young baker decided to unite all the small cakes and this is the way the idea of a multiple layer wedding cake was born.

The dress. Traditionally, brides wore white Wedding Dresses. In XVIII century, brides put on their most beautiful dress on their wedding day. In the Middle Ages, red was the main color for Wedding Dresses. Some brides wore different colored dresses – blue meant constancy and green – youth. In time, white earned the title – clarity. Nowadays, white is a symbol of the wedding and it is worn even by brides that are not getting married for the first time.

Honey moon. The groom used to kidnap the bride and hide her from her family and the whole town. The bride and the groom spent a month together and drank mead in order to keep the love between them burning. Here is how the inscription “honey moon” was created. Nowadays, honey moon is the time after the wedding when the newly married couple isolate themselves from the entire world and spends some time alone with each other.

The kiss. The first kiss that the partners share with each other in the end of the wedding ceremony, has a special meaning through the centuries. Many cultures believe that the spirits of the bride and the groom become one with the first kiss.

The ring. The wedding ring is traditionally worn on the ring finger on the left hand, because it is believed that there is a vain, which is connected directly to the heart. Among the English speaking cultures, the wedding ring continues to be worn on this finger.

The veil. Mystery and romance hide behind the veil for a thousand years. At first, the veil served as a protection for the bride from potential dangers. The more romantic interpretation is that the hidden things are more valuable and the bride’s face is more valuable when it’s hidden under the veil. The veil is also a symbol of youth and clarity.

8th moon, 315 AC

Gunthor Hightower had seen his share of weddings, but he had to admit none were more beautiful than this. His daughter looked especially beautiful in her cream dress adorned with emerald green jewels down the back, and Ser Raynald Fossoway looked particularly handsome in a fine velvet emerald green doublet to match. They were a perfect couple and a perfect match. The night was brilliant, as well. The stars were brightly lit outside, Gunthor could see out the window, the gods clearly looking down as the couples said their vows.

Ceremony

The ceremony was simple, but elegant. His daughter stood on the dais, her hands interlaced with her soon-to-be husband’s as the Septon said his words. He could see tears well up in her eyes, but she held her composure as befit a lady of the Reach, and eventually Lady of New Barrel. Ser Raynald, meanwhile, was the pinnacle of honor and virtue. He kept eye contact with his daughter, repeated the Septon’s words, and very politely kissed her when the vows were done. Gunthor must be honest, he had his doubts about the match that Otto arranged at first, but it was clear that Raynald was a good man, and that was no clearer than how he treated his daughter during the ceremony.

Feast

The High Table was made up of the two marrying families in addition to bride and groom. From the Hightowers of Sunhouse came Lord Gunthor, Alyssa, and their children: Otto, Addam and his wife Lyanna, and Alicent. From the Fossoways there was Addam and his wife Aemma, as well as Mira and her husband Horatio. The high table was set in front of the great hall in front of the arrangement of tables. The appetizer course was an assortment of apples, blood oranges, pomegranates, plums, olives, dragon peppers, olives, and turnips. The main course was roast boar caught just before the ceremony glazed in honey and spices. After the feast, the tables would be cleared away for dancing.

I’m probably being completely unfair here, but i’m stressed and have decided to voice my unpopular opinion. I have decided that even if somebody’s wedding isn’t specifically a “child-free” wedding, parents should still try their hardest to leave the kids at home/with a babysitter/family member rather than bringing them along. UNLESS it’s a super child-friendly wedding with lots of other kids, activities, etc.

At a regular wedding, I actually can’t see a single reason why it would be fun for anybody to bring your young kids along when 95% of the other guests are adults. As far as I see it, the only benefit of bringing your kids is so that you don’t have to organise a babysitter. There are just a multitude of reasons why bringing your kids will suck for a) the parents, b) the kids, c) the bride and groom, 4) everybody else there.

• Parents have to spend the whole night worrying about their kids, dealing with their behaviour, and keeping an eye on them in general.
• They probably have to leave early so the kids can go to bed.
• They probably can’t drink much, because, kids. Probably can’t dance much because, watching the kids.
• There is great risk of the kids being disruptive during the ceremony, speeches, etc.
• The children will most likely be bored out of their minds.
• The bride and groom have to either make special arrangements for food, or accept paying for meals that fussy kids won’t want to eat.
• Unless there is a “kids table” at dinner, (which in itself would probably be mayhem), you have to subject other child-free people to sitting at a table that includes other people’s annoying kids.

I am in general fine with kids, and we don’t want our wedding to be strictly “child-free” because everybody is having to travel to be there and stay the weekend etc. I wouldn’t want that to be a deal breaker for people that are important to us. But it just surprised me that nobody with kids thought to ask whether we were OK with the kids coming, they just assumed it would be fine. Or that they didn’t even try and work out a way of coming without the kids. Don’t they see that’s it’s just bad news for everybody?

Currently my main concern is tables. I don’t want anybody who has done us the service of leaving their kids at home to have to share with somebody who did bring their kids. It seems unfair. And I feel like it’s also unfair for somebody without kids to have to put up with a bunch of kids at their table. I don’t want a designated “kids table” because it would be chaotic, and the kids aren’t quite old enough to sort foody stuff out themselves (i’m talking like, 4 year olds). I feel like I have to put all the families with kids together, even though that may end up as a table of only 4 adults and like 8 kids. Its the only solution I can think of.

End rant.