How the Mother of the Bride’s Duties Differ from the Mother of the Groom’s
Photo: Kate Webber Photography
When it comes to wedding planning, there’s enough work to go around — and both your mother and mother-in-law to-be will want to pitch in. So here’s how the most important women in your life should divvy up their wedding duties.
The mother of the groom should…
— Offer your beau financial assistance — if desired — for those things traditionally paid for by the groom’s family, such as your bouquet and the rehearsal dinner. (But don’t be offended if she doesn’t — many couples are now paying for their weddings solo.)
— Attend the bridal shower with a gift and a smile.
— Check in with your mom about her wedding-day attire — their looks should complement and not compete with one another — and shop for her outfit up to six weeks before the big day.
— Plan and host the rehearsal dinner, which could take up to six months to organize.
— And dance with her son at the reception, of course!
The Mother of the Bride should…
— Discuss your wedding budget with you, and the ways she and your father would like to contribute.
— Be the back-up contact for wedding professionals, including your planner, caterer and florist.
— Help you choose your wedding gown — tears aren’t required, but definitely appreciated!
— Ask your opinion on what she should wear for the big day, and purchase her attire up to six weeks before the wedding.
— Attend or even organize your bridal shower, depending on what you decide with your ‘maids.
— And be there for any pre-wedding breakdowns, crisis and moments of pure joy!
Both mothers should…
— Help spread the word on where you’re registered to their family and friends.
— Seek out recommendations for wedding professionals and ceremony and reception sites — as long as you’ve asked for their input.
— And see you off from the reception as the two of you embark on your new life together!
What do you wish your mother and future mother-in-law would do for your big day?