You might have overheard an old saying that the Mother of the Groom is supposed to “shut up, show up and wear beige.” While we don’t agree, we do have some tips to make sure you choose a dress that you and your future daughter in love will absolutely love.
Start with the Bride
How formal is it?
Ask the bride about the formality of the wedding. Is it a daytime or evening wedding? Is it casual or black tie ? This will get you started on whether a tea-length dress or an elaborate sequin floor-length dress could be an appropriate choice.
What’s the wedding’s color palette?
She’ll be thrilled to know that you are thinking about your dress as it relates to her wedding vision as a whole. You’ll know not to wear navy blue if her color pattern is mint-peach-pink.
Match but don’t Clash
You have taken the bride’s cue on what formality and colors are acceptable.
Now, if the mother of the bride hasn’t reached out yet and the wedding is less than 4 months away,you can reach out to her to coordinate your dress.
This is important so both of you are in agreement that the colors are in a similar tone or palette, but do NOT match exactly. You don’t want to look like twins!
Here’s some ideas to choose a color for the dress:
- Take a look at the different tones within the color palette
- Get inspired by the colors of the flower arrangements.
- If you know what the bridesmaids will wear, choose a complementary color ( This tool from David’s Bridal might help)
- Neutrals are always safe.
- Go Lighter or Darker – try a lighter version of one the bride’s colors, so if she chooses Purple, try grey or lavender. If yellow , try a gold or copper.
What to stay away from
Okay, so there are some rules that are traditionally not acceptable for mother of the groom dresses:
- White or Ivory – This is not only valid
- Black – This used to be a statement that the mother of the groom does not approve of the wedding.
- Red – You’ll stick out in all the wrong ways. Need I say more?
Take these with a grain of salt IF the bride has told you specifically that any these are okay.
As long as you’ve communicated with the bride and the mother of the groom dress complements the mother of the bride as, you should choose a mother of the groom dress that is flattering, and that you feel comfortable in — whatever color that may be!